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Do you want to learn how to write a profile for a dating sites (eHarmony, Match.com) or maybe your more of a social networking person (MySpace, Bebo…) that will attract women and put the match/friend request section to good use? I have been browsing a few profiles of guys to see what they write but all I found was the same boring and monotonous repetition of the guy before…with the same crappy design, same chunk of text that seems so unappealing to read and learn about their interests (which are all the same) and I wont even go into the unoriginal display pictures or names they choose.In this article I will teach you a step by step guide on how to write something that will captivate the attention of the female readers and help you come out on top in the searches.

Creating The Profile

All the optimizing starts very early in the creation of a profile, the most important aspect of this step is making sure you fill in the fields correctly as many searches base their results on the information you provide when signing up.If all your information isn’t accurate, whats the point of tweaking all the other aspects of your profile if nobodies going to be able to find you when searching in the first place?

• Name: Always provide your full name without using any made ups or nicknames, all these websites have privacy settings and NEVER display your full name unless you ask them to (keep in mind your sign up name and display names are totally different things) but giving your real name can be really useful when you meet a girl and for some reason only have the chance to give her your name, if their interested in the future they will search for you.
• Email: If you think the email part is something trivial, your mistaken, many people decide to use a secondary email to sign up to these sites, in some ways thats a benefit as you won’t get any spam or risk the invasion of privacy.However most notifications you get from women are sent through emails and sometimes you forget about some of the many sites you’ve signed up too, another important reason for giving a right email is you may have random girls on your messenger list you’ve met through some friends and they may decide one day to get to know more about you…usually by using the information they already know (your name or email) to do a quick search.
• Birthday: What is one of the most important things you look for when searching for a partner? the right age, most people have a specific age group their interested in for a variety of reasons (some like old men cause their mature some want young and adventurous).
• Gender: I think you can figure this one out on your own…
• Location: This should be obvious, the majority of these sites have search options based on the location of the people your interested in meeting, always use the right information when filling in the city, state and country.
• Post/Zip Code: I should of made this part of the Location field but I decided to give it it’s own description just to reinforce how important it is, apart from helping women find you in searches, some searches also offer a Distance Search Option meaning you can find people in a 5, 10, 20… Mile radius and if this information isn’t set correctly, you will go unnoticed.

Choosing The Main Picture

Although you may pass it as lightly and upload the first picture you find in your Pictures folder, this is the biggest and most important element in your profile, when a women is performing a search or browsing through a list of someone else’s friends is your picture, it’s the only thing they have to judge you and separate you from the rest on that page, although a good display name is important the picture will always be the best way to hook a girls attention.

Types Of Pictures You Can Use:

• Shirtless: If you have a slim body with no man boobs I’m sure this will attract a great variety of women, of course having a clean cut body or some muscles (specially abs) will help a lot but it’s not always necessary.
• Personalized: This is usually one of my favorites, it doesn’t attract so many girls but it reflects your personality and attracts women that have the same interests as you, eg: if your an emo (lol its an example) you should have something emoish to represent your personality or depression, the same way if your a traveler or adventurer then something in an interesting place or at the top of a mountain, surfers can go for a picture at the beach, avid readers can have a mugshot type (read below) while reading a book..you get the idea.
• Mugshot: The most common of them all, this is the picture where only your head and neck appears.Just because a big amount of guys use this it doesn’t mean their having any success with it, unless your at least slightly handsome or posses a charismatic smile I wouldn’t suggest it.
• Original: Another one I usually lean for, this is guaranteed to attract attention to your profile if you find something unique or distinguished, I’ve seen some guys for example take a mugshot style picture with a polaroid and then take a full body picture while holding the polaroid close enough to the camera to make it seem like the head in the polaroid is connected to the rest of the body below.
• Animated: If the site allows .gif format, this is the perfect option to become the center of attention in any search.You can basically gather a few different pictures and make a small animated slide show with it, a cool thing to try is taking a few shots in the same pose just moving your head slightly creating a slow motion style picture.Adobe offers Photoshop but you have to pay, some free options are PhotoBucket, Gimp, Beneton, Gickr.
• Group: If you want to show your a friendly outgoing guy and decide to take a group picture of you and your friends you should keep a few things in mind, don’t let a pile of empty beers appear in the picture or it will just make you look like a drunk, smoking is usually a big No as well..you can let her eventually find out but you don’t want her first impression of you to be an ashtray mouth and finally, when choosing a picture try and find one where your friends come out ugly or your surrounded by naturally uglier friends than you…why? if you read the Perceptual Contrast Principle you would probably know.

Choosing A Display Name

I always found this one a bit trick, choosing a picture only requires set amount of work to find something you already have, but trying to come up with something that reflects your personality in “5 to 15 characters” is hard, then there’s so many things to take in consideration..how you want to appear?, what type of women you want to attract with it?, does it sound to boring?, will it hook womens attention? The only thing I can help you with is by giving you some simples rules:

DON’T:

• Don’t choose anything to specific like “LakersfFan79″ but rather something neutral that won’t create rivalries or conflicts, it’s very possible the girl of your dreams isn’t into sports and if she sees a display name like that she will think “pfftt another sports nut that will ignore me when the games on”.
• Don’t choose anything that will scare her away like “devil, nosferatu, hustler, freak, playa, killer, assasin, pimp”, you may think it looks dangerous and cool but that only works with high school girls.
• Don’t use the same name on every website, I know it’s hard finding a new one for each site you use but, the modern women is very sneaky and when they meet someone online the Google their Display Names to find if they have accounts on any other sites to see if their playing many girls at the same time or are genuinely interested in them.Also they like to cross check what your wrote on the profile to see if it’s true or your making it up.
• Don’t choose anything boring, studies show the majority of guys choose their name followed by the numbers of their birth year…If a girl sees “Matthew88″ then below me is a guy with “Nuns-R-Sexy” odds are she’ll go visit him just cause it’s more captivating even though a bit stupid but raises curiosity to hook them into finding out more of that buffoon.
• Don’t use numbers in your name or at least avoid them as much as you can, numbers always make names look cheap…unless they are being used in an creative way like “Trav3ler”, something like that would raise her curiosity to find out more about that guy compared to “traveler8374″.

DO’s:

• I always search for words that I identify myself with or reflects my personality, try to find word in an online dictionary that sound quirky but create a curiosity hook.The reason I choose those type of words is that the women your interested in meeting usually knows the meaning of that word so it’s like a way of filtering out the women you wouldn’t get along with.
• If the website allows it, you can spice up your name by adding some strange ascii characters, you can find these type of characters here and it many other places.This is almost guaranteed to get you tons of views from all types of women, if you combine it with a word you identify yourself with as mentioned above…it can become a pretty powerful hook to attract the women you want.
• If your having a hard time with all these Do’s and Don’ts the simplest names sometimes are the best, find something you and everyone is general is interested in, eg: music, travelling, fun, humor, friends and use it in your name. If a women made a search and saw the name “johnny79″ and below that saw a guy with the name “MusicLov3r” who do you think she would visit first?

Writing The About Me

All of the information above has one mission and one mission only, to attract women to your profile, now tell me, What is the use of all that trouble you just went through editing your name, picture and personal information if once the women arrive to your profile their met with a big yawn?

There is two simple facts to always remember about internet users,

1) Their Lazy

2) Their Impatient

The average man spends around 30-60 seconds on a womens profile to see if his interested, the average women however only spends 20-40 before she hits the Back button in her browser.The majority of people just scan the profile with a quick glimpse at the content on that profile, sometimes they don’t even scan at all and just look at what is presented in what blogger terms is known as “above the fold” and used for advertisements, it’s the part of the website you don’t have to scroll down to see.So now that we know this, what can we do about it?

• Opening: The first thing you have to worry about is how your going to open your about me introduction, the best way to open it is with a small joke to raise the girls interest (forget knock knocks, something observational…eg:”If guys had their period, we’d probably brag about the size of our tampons.”, whoops, a bit gross) or maybe a meaning quote by someone famous (it will make you look deep, sensible and intellectual).
• Content: Wring the actual content of yourself is the tricky part, try avoiding using any cliches eg: “oh I hate this part where I have to write about myself”…you don’t want come along as a negative whiny grump. Your aim when writing about you is to appear friendly, approachable and interesting, never write a huge chunk of text that seems so painfully hard to read…always brake your self descriptions into small 30-60 second (to read) paragraphs.One thing I personally hate and know many others do is that horrible sms grammar, it doesn’t make you look spontaneous or adventurous, it makes you seem so juvenile, lazy and poorly educated, mastering the art of proper writing will impress any decent women and it’s not hard cause most browsers come in with inbuilt spell checkers, so use them!
• Capturing Attention: As I mention, women skim/scan profiles really quickly to see if that person has anything interesting to offer so you have to hook their attention anyway you can, a couple of simple tricks are to make some of your important personality features in bold text eg:”I love living a healthy lifestyle by going for runs and eating proper food“, another cool trick is to add some small pictures of your interests to your profiles…a picture is worth a thousand words right? plus it stand out and can be situated anywhere really as long as their not big and take ages to load, if you want to edit the size of your image use a simple service like PhotoBucket or Resizr, it lets you host and edit images with many different options. PLEASE! don’t post too many pictures of hot babes, cars, sports or anything unappealing to girls, your trying to find a girl not create male bonding with someone…use stuff like image jokes you found on the net, optical illusions, places you want to visit, anything that shows you have some depth and aren’t another bone headed male.
• What To Say: If your uncertain of what to say about yourself you can ask some friends what they think of you, what qualities you have ect… My suggestion is don’t give away too much, name a few of your interests but leave space for mystery, remember mystery is what keeps life exciting, once you loose the mystery and know everything about that person…you loose interest.Try and encourage them to find out more about you, you can end the about me with a question eg:” can someone really self describe themselves in 500 characters or less? If they can, they must be really boring people”, well maybe not that cause it’s a bit opinionated but that gives you an idea.Also you can tell them you have an instant messenger and invite them to ask for it (again…it raises curiosity, creates depth and sounds inviting).

OTHER AREAS:

Apart from the main about me self description, theirs plenty of other things these type of sites offer you to fill in, your hobbies and interests, music, movies, tv shows, books ect..Each person has their own taste and by using some of the above rules on how to write your about me (grammar, not giving to much information away) you should be fine however heres a few more pointers:

• If the website allows you to add music to your profile, don’t choose something to specific…always try and go for something you like but you know most women your interested in attracting would like as well.
• Going out “drinkn tiel muh brainz num” is not considered a hobby…”socializing at parties and meeting new people” however is…both examples basically mean the same thing but one shows your an idiot while the other shows you friendly, honest and enjoy having a fun time.
• When listing what types of things you enjoy doing to pass time try avoiding using too much of the stereotypical guy “sports, cars, babes” interests and offer something with more depth thats along the same lines, like: “Outdoors (includes sports), Adventures and Road trips (includes cars), Meeting New Diverse People (includes babes)”.
• When writing about the movies/tv shows you enjoy, don’t be afraid to name some chick flicks if you enjoyed them, eg: The Notebook, Love Actually, A Walk To Remember ect..It’s not about appearing to be a wuss, showing your not afraid to reveal a sensible side is quite attractive to women, but do make sure you watched and enjoyed the movie cause they usually ask about those things.

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