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Run Forrest, Run!

Have you ever overheard a girl tell a friend, “His a really nice sweet guy, but I don’t like him in that way!” ?

Okay maybe not with those exact words but how can you make sense of such a statement? Whats not to like about a nice and sweet guy? That’s something that always puzzled me.Most of my life I have had girls lining up to be my new best friend or cry on my shoulder about some jerk, but none of them liked me in “that way”, am I gay and don’t realize it? Why do they just want to be my friends!? I see all the girls I like dating jerk type bad boys who only treat them like crap and yet they could not be more in love with them, I’m certain most of these girls will end up in those “Anti-Violence against women” campaign commercials, but they don’t seem to mind at all.

Then it hit me, young women are less interested in a nice guys, and more attracted to the excitement a bad boy brings.When women are younger they look for a party animal, who’s going to offer them adventures but eventually this changes as the woman matures and realizes she’s been tripping over the same stone over and over, the the wild, crazy passion a bad boy use to bring has turned into an abusive bad macho temper but by then it’s sometimes too late as the loyal, sweet stable guy has turned into a wonderful father/husband now lives in a nice little suburban home with a Labrador and white picket fence (how could I avoid such a cliche?). The greatest example of them all that nice guys finish last is Forrest Gump, the ultimate nice guy that could do just about anything he set his simple mind too except date Jenny, who always was more attracted to jerks and at the end realized what she was missing although in her case almost too late.

We’ve all met that girl that drives us crazy, shes the girl of our dreams, we think to ourselves “This one is the one, I’ll treat her right and make her happy”. The only problem with this is that you will come across as a boring predictable guy that just made her loose all the excitement of the chase cause she already knows your a sure thing.

The Contenders

Nice Guy:The nice guys aims to please everyone and feels horrible when he lets someone down, nervous around girls and doesn’t know what to do. He cannot set his priorities right and is willing to sacrifice his own happiness for others.

In simpler words, his a pushover.He will let anyone walk all over him and will do favors for even his worst enemies.The problem with all this is he never stands up for himself and eventually his girlfriend leaves him for being too nice (yeah I couldn’t make sense of it either but thats women for you).

The Jerk: He is a strong, dominant, relaxed, untamable man who knows what he wants and the dating game well, his main priority in life is too always think about himself and his needs first.He excels confidence and won’t let anyone walk over him.

Why Do Woman Keep Falling For Them?

This one is very simple, their confident and take charge. Woman hate guys that can’t take charge or aren’t confident to make decisions, the typical mama’s boy is so unattractive to them.Also keep in mind, hot women are intimidating to insecure guys and the only ones who are confident enough to approach them happen to be jerks.

Being cocky, sometimes arrogant, sarcastic, seems illogical to attract woman but it works, I have literally joked around with girls making fun of their appearance (it’s called the Negging method), beliefs or even friends and family and they just laughed and gave me their number… but how can this be?, it makes no sense.

Looking into jerks I noticed quite a few things about woman as well, woman who are attracted to them suffer from a low self esteem.They don’t think they can find anything better than these types of guys, and as I will go into below, jerks also suffer from this problem, making them the ideal couple.Another reason I observed is that woman want to try and be the savior of these rebellious bad boys, try and fix him, change him and find a cure for being a jerk then turn him into a nice guy, that way they feel useful and special which helps their own low self esteem…yeah I know what your thinking, “YOU COULD OF CHOSEN THE NICE GUY IN THE FIRST PLACE!”, but theirs no challenge or rewarding feeling involved in that and if you think about it, what would be the excitement in a relationship if a man was perfect to begin with?

Woman don’t choose who they want to be attracted to, it’s not like they wake up one morning and say to themselves “Mmm Michelle, you should feel attracted to jerks who are abusive mentally and sometimes physically, break your heart, get bored of you and cheat or become controlive jealous bastards”. The attraction they feel is an emotional response to certain personality traits and behavior they see in a guy.

Irresistible Qualities Jerks Have

Woman aren’t attracted to the jerks abusive side, what happens is jerks posses a few rare qualities that are so attractive they blind woman from seeing the abusive side in them, I call it the “jerk effect”.Some of the reasons woman love them is because their:

• Unpredictable
• Masculine
• Play Hard To Get
• Confident (appear so)
• Uncontrollable
• Selfish
• Cocky
• Sarcastic
• Laid back
• Dominant
• Challenging

Theres quite a few more, but these are just some examples of the qualities that trigger the natural “attraction mechanism” inside women.Why are they attracted to such qualities? Isn’t that obvious by now? Women Don’t Know What They Want! On one side they want a stable nice guy that will create security in their lives and treat them well…we have our society to thank for that. On the other side however, their looking for someone strong and dominant to take care of them and have healthy strong offspring’s, we have our Animal Instincts to thank for this one.

How Jerks Got Those Qualities

We all bitch about jerks and how bad they are but nobody ever asks themselves why they are that way, here are the reasons I can think of:

• Born With It: Some of the times it’s inherited from their parents and helped developed in a negative social environment.
• Low Self Esteem: This one being the most common reason, men with low self esteems choose to become jerks to hide their lack of confidence, however most people perceive him as a jerk thinking it is cause he has too much of it.
• Rejected: This can be due to the above reason, they have been hurt in the passed or made fun of and loose self esteem so adopt the strong hard jerk image to avoid getting hurt again.
• Animals: Another theory involves the idea that we are the result of thousands of years of evolution but are still animals at heart and jerks and the ones in touch with the “survival of the fittest” ideology.Womens purpose on this earth is to survive and replicate, and they need to find someone strong to do that with, take for example the King of the jungle the Lion, he lets the Lioness do all the hunting, sometimes can be in several relationships and rarely is around apart from the time his needed, why do the Lionesses put up with him? They feel protected knowing he is a determined creature that will fight to death to defend his pride and territory and not only that, but he is a healthy and strong specimen to have babies with.

How Can You Use This To Your Advantage

Now we know the main reason attractive women like jerks is because their arrogance is perceived as confidence and makes them feel protected (the same reason why most women are attracted to tall men), what you have to do now is kill off “Mr Nice” and bury the body somewhere till your married and require his services…in the mean time get in touch with your inner jerk. Jerks think being abusive is part of their charm, it is clearly not but they don’t know that or can’t control it.You on the other hand now know why women find them attractive therefore you can use the good attraction qualities and ignore the bad ones making you seem even more appealing to women.

Here are some things you can do to appear like a jerk without actually becoming one:

• Care Free: Try and appear so confident you couldn’t care less about anything specially if women are interested in your or not, do whatever you feel like and have the macho attitude.In other words, “this is how I am, if you don’t like it..there’s the door.”
• Selfish: You should try and be more selfish, I’m not saying be a meanie or anything just act like your out to enjoy life and you don’t want your time taken up with stupid trivialities.This is one of the most important keys to appear confident, jerks think like this: “What she thinks of me doesn’t matter, It’s all about what I think of myself”.
• Emotionless: Don’t cry, or care about anything (unless it’s one of those “change or I’m leaving you” moments in which case just promise you will), remaining mysterious and don’t let them know what your thinking.
• Show Her Who’s Boss: Don’t treat her like a princess, don’t be afraid to say “NO” and be a stubborn mule sometimes, jerks usually think of women as a “life support system for a vagina.”
• Bedroom: You better have the skills in bed to back up the cockyness you have out of it…
• Confidence: The most important of all, show your secure about yourself, be arrogant, think to yourself “I’m doing this girl favor by directing some of MY attention to her…”. Don’t worry about offending others or hesitate when making a decision, you know what you want and must go for it!

Stop being submissive and be more dominant, I can pretty much guarantee you can pick up any hot girl by acting a bit mysterious and cocky while keeping a balance of chivalry and humor, the only problem is, these girls may be beautiful but do you really want to be with someone that has low self esteem and is attracted to these type of guys to later realize she was wrong? sure it’s great for a one night stand (and once you get addicted to hurting women the same way they hurt you when you were nice, you won’t want to stop) but to find your ideal partner just be yourself.

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