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Are you one of those foolish men who takes the first kiss for granted? Let me tell you my friend, the first kiss is one of the most important aspects of a whole relationship, it can either make it or brake it right there on the spot.Why?

For women the first kiss with a guy is like going on a test drive of what the entire relationship will be like attraction wise, it also tells them at what speed they should let the relationship progress (good first kiss = sex ASAP).She usually expects some magical chemistry and sparkles to fly out of her ass as her right leg raises, the sad part is most first kisses aren’t fairy tale like, so you’ll have to create the magic yourself by being prepared and knowing what to do.

Having a good first kiss and making sure she remembers it is something very important, if it becomes this awkward situation where she feels uncomfortable just thinking how the next one will be, odd’s are it wont last long…you want her to feel comfortable and look forward to more kisses like that and raise her curiosity on how you are in other areas of intimacy.

First Kiss Advice

Isolate: The first kiss is something special and should be done in privacy, personally I get nervous when I’m in a big crowd of people and have to kiss a girl for the first time, it all seems rushed and your both distracted with the noises, music, vibration, and the special moment you want her to remember will seem to go by faster than usual (noise has an alteration of time effect making it seem more swift).

The first kiss is personal and you don’t want to share with a crowd, stay away from clubs, restaurants, concerts and find some secluded spot like on a walk, different room, at the beach, on her door step.

Moment: Studying real estate, they kept repeating the whole “location, location, location” cliche, well I’m going to say “moment, moment, moment”. I think the moment you decide to make the big step is crucial on the result it will have, eg: try and find a special moment where you both stop speaking, your eyes meet and don’t look away, tenderly grab her chin with your thumb and index and gently position her face as you make your move.But It’s not only about the moment you make the move but also the moment you pull out of the kiss, drag the kiss along for a bit and just when you think it’s at it’s peak, remove yourself from her lips, it will show her who’s in control and leave her dying for more.

Rushing It: As I said in the Isolation advice, you want the moment to seem long and deep (and stop at its peak as mentioned above) not short and wimpy.Your aim is to make the first experience feel like one of those chick flick passionate kiss slow moments.

It might of seemed great as teen when you got those peck kisses secretly in the school bathroom but in a real date you don’t want to come across as timid, after reading all this and making you nervous I know you’ll probably be having the “lets get this over with” attitude which many guys have as they basically want to get down to the good stuff, but before you kiss her, take a deep breath, relax and appreciate every bit of it without thinking to much ahead.

First Kiss Tips

Breath: The first thing I do before going out on a date (or anywhere) is to brush my teeth, it’s common sense, It’s not only about the kiss but when you speak she can notice the bad breath you may have from your previous meal as well. If your going out for dinner be prepared, buy some mint gum, Mentos or even a breath spay (use it in the restroom not in front of her :|) and take them after your meal or drink (beer).

Out Of The Way: In many occasions it’s better to get the first kiss over with, the more you let it build up, the scarier it will seem for you to actually do it and worst of all, the more time she will have to build up her expectations to a point no matter how good your kiss it, it won’t live up to them.Get it out of the way and enjoy the freedom of not worrying or obsessing about it and actually having a good time by getting to know her.

Simple: The best first kiss advice I can give you is this: K.I.S.S = Keep It Simple Sir.

Indulge yourself in a simple yet sexy intimate kiss. Get rid of the whole kissing performance thoughts, and instead, realize that she’s opening the door to her soul and body.

One thing I learned along time ago when it comes to kisses, sex or anything in the sensual area is that It’s better to be an expert at the simple stuff, than to be mediocre at the fancy tricks.

Softly: You know how you see those intense kisses in the movies right before they get it on? That can only happen in a passionate intense moment, never try it on a first kiss attempt.

Think of her as if she was asleep and you gradually want to wake her up, your lips should barely touch hers softly and slowly.

DO’s:

Cheek: If you aren’t confident to get the first kiss out of the way in the first hour, try to kiss her in the cheek the moment you meet her, it prepares her for your future intentions later on.

Touch: A mistake many guys make is to go for the attack without any build up moment, you have to touch her a bit before you make such a move.For this part you have to be a bit creative, you can have the whole confident approach grab her by the waste and gently slide her towards you, or corner her against a wall as you run your fingers through her hair and softly touch her face.

Another soft way is to lean in toward her and kiss her sensuously on the cheek, making your way to her lips. While you kiss her, rub her body and feel her getting goose bumps.

Always remember to use your hands while kissing, don’t just leave them hanging there or use them for support.You could wrap them around her waist, use them to clutch her back, or massage her head/neck. Don’t do the typical guyish thing and go for her ass or boobs, that just stupid cause she’s expecting that, be different and touch her back, shoulders, arms and face.

Eyes: Eye contact should be made as a pre kiss build up, once your actually kissing for the love of god shut your eyes, according to women there is nothing creepier than a guy kissing with his eyes open..it shows tension and discomfort, closing your eyes will also help you get rid of the visual distractions.

Comfort: If you want to build comfort for the first kiss, keep the conversation positive and light and by getting her to laugh as much as you can, then silently and sweetly, lay one on her.

Sometimes out of nervousness you say the wrong things and it totally screws up the moment, a trick is to remain silent, you cant say something stupid that will turn her off if you don’t say much.I’m not saying be a statue but add to the conversation without giving out to much information about yourself, everyone loves to speak about themselves so if you let her do it she will love you for it, not to mention make you look mysterious which girls adore.

Some of the things that will reduce a girls comfort level for the first kiss are: any talk of sex or comments about her body, staring at her breasts, complaints about ex-girlfriends, driving too fast, an environment that’s too hot, cold or unsafe in any way (ghetto style, dark alley, biker bar..), a lack of privacy, loud noises, obnoxious roommates, creepy insects, annoying pets, and a dirty, dusty house or even negative talk (eg: I hate this/that…).

Other Spots: After you date a few women you discover some tricks like, they love surprises and spontaneous kisses, don’t kiss her in the same boring spot or where she expects you too…kiss her in the eyes, cheeks, forehead, neck, hands, earlobes (nibble on them a bit) and observe her comfort level for positive or negative reactions.These spots aren’t exactly first kiss material but it will give you something to use just in case the first kiss evolves into more.

Spice It Up: Depending on the girl, after you give the first kiss it sometimes carries on for a while, try and spice it up a bit with some variety. Move from short, soft kisses into longer, deeper ones, then back again… and don’t use your tongue any more than she does. Change the angle by moving your head to the other side, and alternate between sucking on her lower and upper lip.

SHAVE: It might look hot to have a bit of a rough look but if its too rough you might actually scratch her face, don’t go to a date with a 4 day sandpaper beard, depending on your growth rate shave the night before or early in the morning before the date to have a nice look but nothing “dangerous”.

Dont’s:

Permission: Never and I mean NEVER ask for permission to kiss her, you may think its polite, sweet, sensative and gentlemen like to ask for permission..I made the mistake once (trying to play the cavalier role) and it did work but you could see she was rather turned off and made me look unsure and timid.Women want you to take charge of the situation specially in passionate moment.

If your unsure if she wants you to kiss her (90% of chicks want a kiss at some point with the guy unless his totally obnoxious) check out her body language: Is she facing you?, leaning towards you?, touching you?, smiling while she stares at you or your lips?, biting her lip?, playing with her hair? all these can be signs she’s has interest in you and is waiting for you to make a move.

I once was annoyed at the fact we always had to make the first move and started wondering why? why do we have to do it first? Theres a few reasons: As modern as they may be, women are still under the whole “If I make the first move it’s non lady like and slutty” thing, they have the whole prince will come and sweep me off my feet (by kissing me) ideology, they are more sensible to rejection and very insecure about themselves so don’t want to risk it or she could just be testing your confidence.

Inappropriate: Choosing the inappropriate moment to give her the first kiss is something you should keep in mind, don’t kiss her while shes talking about something shes really passionate or interested about and never kiss her if for some reason your in a rush somewhere (it just ruins the moment).

Tongue:By rule I suggest to never use your tongue on a first kiss, she might choke. Seriously, if you do this, you will come across as an overeager adolescent who’s never experienced a kiss before.

If the attraction is so strong that you both feel like you want to take that next step, you can gently tease her with your tongue, but practice restraint…it will keep her hungry for more.

Slobber: This is just common sense, you don’t want to leave her feeling like she just kissed a drooling cow.

Drunk: I know alcohol helps you build confidence but if the chick isn’t as drunk as you, it will be a sloppy and out of control kiss that she won’t forget (and not in a good way), so get her drunk or stay away from the bar.

The first kiss is all about finding her right comfort level, to achieve this you need the right environment, moment and all of the things mentioned above to take into consideration.Make sure she is ready for a kiss and don’t start anything until she is comfortable.If you misread her signals and kiss her before she’s ready, you’ll come off too strong. If you don’t act on it when she’s ready to be kissed, you lose credibility and come off as a wimp.

Some like it gentle and passionate kiss, while others prefer to be pushed against a wall and feel completely controlled…all these things are stuff you should observe in the time you have before the kiss, find out what type of girl she is, is she shy? is she extroverted and outgoing? maybe ask her her favorite romance movie (this is when it comes in handy watching some chick flicks now and then) so you know what type of kisses she likes.

This is all the information I can provide you according to what I’ve learned, if you know any strategies or tricks of your own..share them in the comments.I hope it has helped you understand a bit better what it’s all about just remember, I have rarely met a girl who turns down a first kiss unless you have totally clashed in some way, most of the time their happy you made the first move cause even if she does turn you down you will come across as a confident guy and she will appreciate that, if you happen to encounter the odd occasion she does reject you, laugh it off and say: “Sorry, I misread your signals.” and continue the conversation (it will be a bit awkward at first but nothing a bit of humor won’t fix).

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